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Offloading culture-keeping to others without recognizing or rewarding their work

The concrete work that generates outputs, outcomes, impacts, yada yada – is measured using KPIs and other performance-monitoring tools.  The equally important, day-to-day labor of managing moods, motivating team members, tending to trauma dumps, soothing egos, de-escalating tensions, honoring milestones, and creating a functional, productive environment is often unplanned and unrecognized.

Consider:

Women are 44% more likely than men to be asked to take on non-promotable tasks like organizing events, mentoring colleagues, or mediating conflict

Women are 48% more likely to say yes to unpaid work, often because the social penalty for “no” is high.

63% of women in corporate roles say they’re expected to be the “cheerful one” or manage team vibes, even if it’s not part of their job.

The next time someone asks you to conduct an EQ task that wasn’t on your radar, pause and ask: Is this part of my role? Do I want to take this on? If the answer is “no”, try a direct but respectful boundary-setter: “I think this might be better addressed with HR’s support.” Or “I’ve got a full plate right now; this might be something for the team lead.”

Let it land. Don’t soften it. Don’t over-explain. Let that boundary breathe.